needs your help!

I’ve had a number of inquiries about helping out with, but very little follow through. SO here it is…

BaSE is a really cool site and could grow into an incredibly in-depth resource the same as Kink Academy has. But it needs your help. I’ve built the site (well, I had my awesome freelance web-designer build the site) in a way that can be really useful.

That is, if it’s used.

If you’re interested in being a community leader, this is a chance for you to do exactly that. If you have the drive to be a contributing member of our community then use this opportunity to gain experience, build a reputation as a go-getting and help create a safe, inspiring space from the ground up.

How do you do this awesome thing I’m sure you are now asking yourself?! Just DO IT!! So often people wait for instructions, wait for specific and exact to-do lists handed over as a step by step guide. But the best leaders, the most passionate and worthwhile community members just get out there and do it.

If you haven’t signed up for a free account on yet, do so. It’s really easy. Then start posting. Post articles, videos, opportunities…anything that would be helpful to fellow ‘sex geeks’. Be sure to give proper credit and be respectful of copyright. Tell your friends on social media about the cool new resource that’s being built and why they should want to be a part of it. Encourage others to join the conversation. Create conversation!

This is how community is built and it can start with you.  BE the first on the dance floor. BE the early adopter. Be the catalyst for a fresh new chance to collaborate, share and connect.

Another successful whirl-wind trip!

13 days on the road. Non-stop travel, video shoots, classes and meetings. Another whirl-wind insanity tour notch on my belt.SXSW V2V

The trip start out in Las Vegas for a brand new off-shoot of South by Southwest, SXSW V2V focusing on start-ups and entrepreneurism. I had met the producers (who also organized the Interactive portion of SXSW in Austin in March) who strongly recommended I attend, and I’m glad I did! The classes were really informative and the speakers were inspiring. It was also an opportunity to meet other entrepreneurs and investors who were incredibly encouraging about what I’m doing with Erotication. Held in the Cosmopolitan Hotel, I appreciated the sexy ambiance, including a number of huge high heel sculptures!

Next up was Boston for a weekend stuffed full of classes. Friday night at the Society (in Connecticut) focused on Creative Humiliation, one of my favorite topics . Saturday was the Demo with Benefits, two hours of Dragon-tail demonstrations. On Sunday, I was at MOB talking about Foot Fetish Play in the afternoon and at the NELA Welcome Wagon with Adventures In Kink that evening.

bondage educationMonday I left bright and early for a couple of days in New York City. I like to take the train when I go from Boston to NYC, it’s quick and I can easily get computer work done AND be able to get up and stretch! The first night had a video shoot with Ducky Doolittle, presenting her “GirlGasm” class which will start to be posted on soon. The next day had a lengthy shoot with Stefano (he runs a bondage school in Rome) sharing suspension and other rope bondage techniques. Later that night I popped over to TES to present Chastity: Learning to Love The Lock as a last minute addition to my schedule. Wednesday morning, before I headed back to Boston I squeezed in a short shoot with pick-up artist & author Arden Leigh.

Wednesday night I was back in Boston for dinner with a friend, then Thursday on a plane back to Boston! Whew!

“I am in serious crush with Kink Academy…”

I recently received this awesome feedback from a member….this is the kind of thing that keeps me working hard every day!


Just registered as a member a few days ago and am in serious crush with K.A. already, looking forward to spending many hours learning (yay)!!  Only problem: deciding what to watch first.  Thank you so so much for creating this learning platform, the answer to my kink-ed dreams.

Part of what’s so exciting to me is the opportunity to learn about things I’ve never considered my specific kinks, and to see how the energy, power dynamics, mindset, and emotional components are often surprisingly transferrable/applicable to pre-existing areas of interest and give me lots of new ideas for how to come at a given type of play from a fresh angle.  Also completely rocks to learn about whole practices I never even knew existed as well as to have so much of what I have experienced and struggled to articulate/structure/hone to create the most tailored/meaningful experience possible with a partner validated, described, and contextualized such that I can more accurately name certain parts of my experience, take pride in them, get excited about deepening them/tweaking them in diverse ways, etc..

A few days later…

I continue to be floored at the wealth of resources K.A. makes available to members!!

Not only do we have the opportunity to take advantage of watching and re-watching the videos on-site as many times as we want, but so many instructors have written more books than I can possibly keep track of/travel and teach /have authored instructional vids/teach other specialized online courses (single courses/course packages), so just by watching a video and following the links on virtually an instructor’s homepage, you can quickly find yourself uncovering all sorts of gold.  E.g. was recently watching a killer Cecilia Tan vid., was already a fan of her writing, but had no idea the first annual Bisexual Book Awards, for which she was a nominee, just placed a little over a week ago.  Had I not seen the post on her blog, I never would’ve known, but now I’ve learned about several other exciting authors I’d not previously heard of as well.

I am also constantly surprised at how down-to-earth the faculty is: here are all the most accomplished folks in their fields going over technical/interpersonal/emotional/spiritual/psychological material in such a way that I never feel intimidated or like the lesson’s impenetrable, even if I go into it knowing less-than-zero or with a set of expectations that are quickly proven faulty (to again use the Cecilia Tan example, she was talking about possible misunderstandings about what a “bath scene” might mean.  I immediately had my own pretty immovable interpretation: a spa-style scene with the sub prepping a bath for the top/dom.  I was already well into going over details of that version in my head: essential oils, possible fresh flower petals, candles, music, warm towels, lux robe, post-bath erotic massage, and then I hear Cecilia saying that it could just as likely be a scene with the sub being given a bath, and I was like: see; this is why this K.A. rocks.  Watch and learn; watch and learn.  I could study this stuff for my whole life, but can’t imagine there ever being a time when I wouldn’t still consider myself a beginner, and I feel like K.A.’s a place where I’m totally welcome to be just that: a lifelong student, learning a little more each day, at my own pace.

Many thanks,