Another successful whirl-wind trip!

13 days on the road. Non-stop travel, video shoots, classes and meetings. Another whirl-wind insanity tour notch on my belt.SXSW V2V

The trip start out in Las Vegas for a brand new off-shoot of South by Southwest, SXSW V2V focusing on start-ups and entrepreneurism. I had met the producers (who also organized the Interactive portion of SXSW in Austin in March) who strongly recommended I attend, and I’m glad I did! The classes were really informative and the speakers were inspiring. It was also an opportunity to meet other entrepreneurs and investors who were incredibly encouraging about what I’m doing with Erotication. Held in the Cosmopolitan Hotel, I appreciated the sexy ambiance, including a number of huge high heel sculptures!

Next up was Boston for a weekend stuffed full of classes. Friday night at the Society (in Connecticut) focused on Creative Humiliation, one of my favorite topics . Saturday was the Demo with Benefits, two hours of Dragon-tail demonstrations. On Sunday, I was at MOB talking about Foot Fetish Play in the afternoon and at the NELA Welcome Wagon with Adventures In Kink that evening.

bondage educationMonday I left bright and early for a couple of days in New York City. I like to take the train when I go from Boston to NYC, it’s quick and I can easily get computer work done AND be able to get up and stretch! The first night had a video shoot with Ducky Doolittle, presenting her “GirlGasm” class which will start to be posted on soon. The next day had a lengthy shoot with Stefano (he runs a bondage school in Rome) sharing suspension and other rope bondage techniques. Later that night I popped over to TES to present Chastity: Learning to Love The Lock as a last minute addition to my schedule. Wednesday morning, before I headed back to Boston I squeezed in a short shoot with pick-up artist & author Arden Leigh.

Wednesday night I was back in Boston for dinner with a friend, then Thursday on a plane back to Boston! Whew!

“I am in serious crush with Kink Academy…”

I recently received this awesome feedback from a member….this is the kind of thing that keeps me working hard every day!


Just registered as a member a few days ago and am in serious crush with K.A. already, looking forward to spending many hours learning (yay)!!  Only problem: deciding what to watch first.  Thank you so so much for creating this learning platform, the answer to my kink-ed dreams.

Part of what’s so exciting to me is the opportunity to learn about things I’ve never considered my specific kinks, and to see how the energy, power dynamics, mindset, and emotional components are often surprisingly transferrable/applicable to pre-existing areas of interest and give me lots of new ideas for how to come at a given type of play from a fresh angle.  Also completely rocks to learn about whole practices I never even knew existed as well as to have so much of what I have experienced and struggled to articulate/structure/hone to create the most tailored/meaningful experience possible with a partner validated, described, and contextualized such that I can more accurately name certain parts of my experience, take pride in them, get excited about deepening them/tweaking them in diverse ways, etc..

A few days later…

I continue to be floored at the wealth of resources K.A. makes available to members!!

Not only do we have the opportunity to take advantage of watching and re-watching the videos on-site as many times as we want, but so many instructors have written more books than I can possibly keep track of/travel and teach /have authored instructional vids/teach other specialized online courses (single courses/course packages), so just by watching a video and following the links on virtually an instructor’s homepage, you can quickly find yourself uncovering all sorts of gold.  E.g. was recently watching a killer Cecilia Tan vid., was already a fan of her writing, but had no idea the first annual Bisexual Book Awards, for which she was a nominee, just placed a little over a week ago.  Had I not seen the post on her blog, I never would’ve known, but now I’ve learned about several other exciting authors I’d not previously heard of as well.

I am also constantly surprised at how down-to-earth the faculty is: here are all the most accomplished folks in their fields going over technical/interpersonal/emotional/spiritual/psychological material in such a way that I never feel intimidated or like the lesson’s impenetrable, even if I go into it knowing less-than-zero or with a set of expectations that are quickly proven faulty (to again use the Cecilia Tan example, she was talking about possible misunderstandings about what a “bath scene” might mean.  I immediately had my own pretty immovable interpretation: a spa-style scene with the sub prepping a bath for the top/dom.  I was already well into going over details of that version in my head: essential oils, possible fresh flower petals, candles, music, warm towels, lux robe, post-bath erotic massage, and then I hear Cecilia saying that it could just as likely be a scene with the sub being given a bath, and I was like: see; this is why this K.A. rocks.  Watch and learn; watch and learn.  I could study this stuff for my whole life, but can’t imagine there ever being a time when I wouldn’t still consider myself a beginner, and I feel like K.A.’s a place where I’m totally welcome to be just that: a lifelong student, learning a little more each day, at my own pace.

Many thanks,



ISO San Francisco Educators to demo sexual techniques for

Now that I’m in California (near the Bay Area) I am VERY much in need of sexual demonstrations for

It’s not porn and it doesn’t pay like porn, but it does pay and there’s a great affiliate program. And you will be part of a revolutionary new form of sex education.

I need educators that are actual educators (you don’t have to be “professional” just experienced in explaining what you’re doing and how things work) OR if you are an experienced educator and you have two people willing to do the sexual demonstration that works really well too. is a MAINSTREAM site, so I’m not looking for anything really kinky (right now) and I’m not looking for the ‘talking head’ style’. I need actual demonstrations with a focus on heterosexual interactions (I keep the fabulous wider spectrum of relationships & gender expressions for Kink Academy)

These are the kind of topics I’m looking for, but am open to other topics as well:

  • Playing with Uncircumcised Cocks
    Body Image
  • How to Get Sex Going
    Anal sex (man on woman)
    Sexual Positions
    General Sexual Techniques
    Oral Sex
    Dirty Talk
    Wearing/Putting On/Taking Off Sexy Clothing
    Stripping for your partner
    How to do a boudoir shoot
    Bedroom Role-Playing
    Sensual Sensation Play (soft and sexy)
  • Masturbation (mutual & solo)

I’m looking to shoot as soon as possible.

The shoots are typically 3 hours but shorter/longer can be arranged. Payment is based on amount of footage shot, not length of shoot, but I do everything in advance so you can walk in and start teaching, so if you’re prepared we can get a lot of clips.

Right now I’m only available in the Bay Area, but I will be in LA June 15 – 20 so can schedule for then too.

If you’re interested please email me at