It’s almost Small Business Saturday! What an excellent opportunity to share something with you all!

“Why do and and have a membership fee?   Why does it cost money to sign up?”

These are questions I have been asked a number of times over the last five years. People save up for weekend conferences, order new kink and sexuality books, and plop down cash for new toys…but because the Kink AcademyNew To Kink, PassionateU & New To Kink resources are based on the internet there is often an assumption that they should be free. But here is the answer…

You get a metric fuck-ton of value for pennies a day.

  • ·         On the two sites – KA and PU – combined, we have nearly 200 educators and over 2000 unique, 5- to 15-minute video clips on about 100 topics.  The sites are constantly growing with five new curated video clips released each week…on each site!  That means new topics, new educators, new nuggets and entire motherlodes of information continuously being added.  And where else can you get all that?  (Um, the answer is:  Nowhere.)
  • ·          From squeaky-new beginners to jaded pros, I have something for you on the sites.  There are 101-level video clips on topics like safety and consent, spanking and fetish wear, and oral sex and flirting.  And then I have more advanced video clips on hands-on skills like Shibari and suspension bondage, fire play and Florentine flogging, and so much more.  With your feedback and requests, I’m always adding more topics to satisfy your personal kink and sexuality needs.
  • I recently launched to specifically work for those that are completely new to the BDSM world and don’t want to overwhelmed by all the choices on Kink Academy. It’s a curated site with clips from both Kink Academy that are chosen to help to learn the basics of dominance/submission, bondage and sensation play.
  • ·          The sites can be utilized as skill-building resources:  Watch a video clip series! Learn it all!  Try it out!  Or use the sites as sexuality and kink samplers to whet your appetite and get a peek at new things to see if you like them.  The convenience of the sites – available when you need them, around your own schedule – means you can watch a clip while you are getting dressed for work in the morning or spend a sultry evening with a partner watching video clips and practicing with each other.  You get to use the sites in the way that works best for you.

Education is important. These are some wild and crazy things we do as kinksters and sexual adventurers so it’s REALLY important that skills and knowledge are acquired along with that big toybag of smack-y and buzz-y things.  Education from presenters and teachers who have spent years fine-tuning their craft, who have invested their time to research and learn the intricacies of hot and sexy topics, who want to share their passion with you – this education will help make your play and sex more informed, safer, and hotter.

Education is valuable.  Let’s do some quick and dirty math.  Individual classes at your local dungeon or sex toy shop can run from $10 to $25 for 2 hours with 1 educator on 1 topic.  A kink or sexuality book can cost you around $14.95 or more.  And weekend conferences can run you $100+ just for attending, and then you need to fork out for hotel rooms food, travel, etc.  And these classes and books and events are great and have their own value, but learning can — and should — be an ongoing process, something that you can tap into at your own convenience, and something that you can tailor to your personal needs. Being a member of sites like Kink Academy, Passionate U or New To Kink allows you to constantly improve and spice up your kink and sexuality repertoire. What is hotter than knowing exactly what you are doing in the dungeon or the bedroom?

We pay all of our educators for their time & knowledge and give them an opportunity to continue to earn money by being involved in the site. This is sadly not usually the case with sex/kink ed, but it’s an important part of the Erotication philosophy.

Education should be accessible.  The low price point of KA, PU & FSR means more people have access to a massive array of educators and video clips.  Not everyone has the disposable income to attend a weekend conference; not everyone can afford to hire a sitter, gas up their car, and trek to a class; not everyone is able to fill their bookcase with the latest sexy how-to books.  And not every kinkster or sexual adventurer has the freedom to be “out” about their interests and needs, to attend in-person events, to walk into their neighborhood bookstore or sex toy store to buy something that might be seen as scandalous.  Kinksters and sexual adventurers of all experience levels, abilities, and comfort levels deserve a chance to learn and explore on their own terms.

There is nothing like Kink Academy, PassionateU or New To Kink out there.  There is nothing that features this many respected educators, so many perspectives, and such a diverse array of topics and skill-levels. These sites are truly revolutionary additions to sex education for adults.

Kink Academy, PassionateU and New To Kink need members to continue their ground-breaking and progressive approach to sex education for adults.   These sites need people who want to improve their skills and broaden their sexual horizons to SIGN UP and enjoy the sexy learning opportunities of having nationally known educators available at the click of a button.

Please support adult sexuality businesses. Please support toy-makers and book writers and event planners. And please support the Erotication websites KinkAcademy, Passionate U and

Erotication sites compensate all of their educators because I value what these educators offer the community.  Please value what KA, PU & NTK are offering by joining now.


It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…” Hi. I’m Gray Miller, sometimes known as “Graydancer”, and I work at Kink Academy.

Those words from Dickens have really resonated with me here at Kink Academy the last couple of months.

It’s been the best of times because we have been working with a brilliant freelance designer (the same one who revamped our sister site, PassionateU) to bring a facelift to Kink Academy. The site is five years old, and we are immensely proud of what we’ve built…but in internet years, that’s, like, FOREVER. We did market research, we asked our members (and those we hoped would be members) what they wanted, and we made it happen.

With change comes pain, though, and that can be “the worst of times”.

Let me break it down for you: Kink Academy is not, as you may picture, an office suite with spiffy leather-furnished offices, a coffee boi named Chris bringing perfect espressos to our high-intensity strategy meetings before we go to relax in our exercise center-cum-dungeon.

Ha. We wish! Kink Academy is mainly Princess Kali, the founder, owner and visionary guiding our direction from the Bay Area in California, and myself, working here in the Bondage Capital of the World, Madison, WI. We are lucky enough to have the occasional help of DoNotGoGently, a leatherwoman from Pittsburgh and other members and allies who do what they can.

Simply put, we’re a small business run by kinksters for kinksters. And like most entrepreneurs, we run into troubles once in a while.

For example:

The upgrade to the videos on the site? That ended up turning them all off for a few hours. To quote Monty Python: “We got better.”

We upgraded our payment processing system and it promptly broke, for no reason we could easily find. Then it worked again, but only for new customers. Our efforts to fix it triggered an audit by our processor company (who we LOVE because they did it fast and pretty painlessly). Finally we fixed it for legacy members, but found out that people who’d been members and wanted to re-subscribe couldn’t.

All of this was bad, because literally people were begging to give us money and we couldn’t take it!  That’s fixed now, too, much to the relief of our landlords. In fact, the only remaining problem has to do with hotmail (if you have hotmail and want to subscribe, contact me, ok?).

During those troubles our customers were AMAZINGLY patient. While we’re privileged to be able to make a living helping kinksters have more and better sex, we sure aren’t rich doing it, and so the support of our members really helped us make it through. Like most entrepreneurs, we suffer from the curse of believing strongly in what we do, at the cost of the salaries we could be making doing the same type of work in a less controversial field.

It was the worst and the best of times, and there was one thing in particular that drove that home for me. As part of the upgrade, I had to go through and re-code every video post on Kink Academy by hand. That’s over a thousand entries, from the first with Jay Wiseman, Megan Andelloux, and others through the most recent ones with Mistrix, Topologist, Mistress Servalan, and…well, the list goes on for an embarrassingly long time. We’ve been so fortunate to work with so many great teachers, to pay them for their knowledge and time, and bring them on as affiliates so that your memberships continue to bring them money! How awesome is that?

That’s what went through my head as I did the tedious coding: “This is AWESOME. A huge library of kink knowledge, history, techniques…” I’ve looked, and I challenge you to find a more broad and diverse source of quality kink learning on the web. Seriously, I do, because maybe I’m biased. I see other resource sites, and I’ve contributed to them. But the Kink Academy is unique in my experience.

Now the growing pains are over, and the site is beautiful, clean, and sexy. We have a collection of free videos, we have regular blog posts, and for our members, amazing premium content, updated five times a week with new videos covering every kink we can legally manage.

We have tools you can use to create your own personalized playlist, picking out just the videos that you want from the teachers who speak to your kink specifically. It’s like having the ability to create your own kinky convention tailored just for you and your partner(s).

You can comment directly on the videos, and often the presenters reply directly to you. All the entries are tagged and categorized so that you can find your favorite kink or explore new ones for as long as you want, 24/7, all year around, on your computer, your tablet, your phone, alone or with friends.

I’ll be honest with you: Kali and I go to these cons, and we see people willing to pay hundreds of dollars for whips and the like – but unwilling to pay a fraction of that to learn how to use it. It’s strange, it is. A year’s membership costs less than a good flogger. Costs less than most conventions you’d attend to see the same presenters give one class – and we have hundreds of classes, available whenever you want.

We are immensely grateful for the people who have helped make Kink Academy what it is today. We want to continue to be part of your community, and to do that, we need your help. Try us out for a month – that’s hours of explicit kink education for the cost of a couple of movie tickets. Become a regular member, it’s even less. Three months of membership is less than a night out on the town!

If you’ve ever thought “Yeah, I’ve heard about the Kink Academy…” and been inclined to try it: we need you NOW. If you are looking for that great holiday gift, WE ARE IT.

If you know of a friend/crush/lust object who maybe could benefit from some kink instruction, D/s theory, leather history, or just plain hot sexy videos that engage mind and body…now is the time.

Just click below, and see what we’ve worked so hard to bring to you and your kink. Mentioned in ‘Cosmopolitan for Latinas’!!

Sitting at a friends’ table one night while I was staying her house over night, I clicked to refresh Twitter while we were talking. There was the tweet. Featured in Cosmo for Latinas!

So I clicked the link.

Reading through the article I started to get excited, it was about the popularity of dominant and submissive fantasies and it was encouraging readers to give it a try.

Then, the second to last paragraph, I saw it…

“Not ready to go full on leather mask and ball gag? Try a few different scenarios to ease your way into it. “You can go to BDSM websites and watch educational videos where people do demonstrations,” suggests Dr. Chaves., a site dedicated to providing sex education on topics like BDSM, has over 1,000 instructional videos by experts in the field that show you what to expect.”

Yes! on the printed page of a Cosmo magazine! I grew up reading Cosmo magazines and while I haven’t always agreed with their advice, it is an iconic source of sexy info for women. And there was MY creation, described so perfectly on the page!

Since the inception of Kink Academy I have dreamed of helping normalize kinky sex. I’ve dreamed of being recommended in mainstream outlets as a reliable resource for learning about all aspects of sexuality. While that dream has been slowly coming true over the last few years, this is an especially exciting moment in Kink Academy history!

I am simply pleased as punch (as my mother would say J) and I look forward to many more mentions in Cosmo magazine as well as many of the other magazines offering any kind of sex advice!

Thank you to @Hernando_Chaves & @RachelKhona and of course @CosmoForLatinas!!!